To Have A Horse In Your Life
To have a horse in
your life is a gift. In the matter of a
few short years, a
horse can teach a young girl courage, if she chooses
to grab mane and hang
on for dear life. Even the smallest of ponies is
mightier than the
tallest of girls. To conquer the fear of falling off, having one's toes crushed,
or being publicly humiliated at a horse show is
an admirable feat for
any
child. For that, we
can be grateful.
Horses teach us responsibility. Unlike a bicycle or
a computer, a horse needs regular care and most of it requires that you
get dirty and smelly and up off the couch. Choosing to leave your
cozy
kitchen to break the
crust of ice off the w ater buckets is to choose responsibility.
When
our horses dip their
noses and drink heartily; we know we've made the
right
choice.
Learning to care for
a horse is both an art and a science.
Some are easy
keepers, requiring little more than regular turn-out, a
flake of hay, and a
trough of clean water. Others will test you -
you'll struggle
to keep them from being too fat or too thin. You'll have
their feet shod
regularly only to find shoes gone missing. Some are so
accident-prone
you'll swear they're
intentionally finding new ways to injure themselves.
If you weren't
raised with horses, you can't know
that they have unique
personalities. You'd expect this from dogs, but
horses? Indeed, there are
clever horses, grumpy horses, and even horses with a
sense of humor..
Those prone to humor will test you by finding new ways to
escape from the barn
when you least expect it.
Horses can be timid or brave, lazy or
athletic, obstinate or willing. You will hit it off with some horses and others
will elude
you altogether. There
are as many "types" of horses as there are people - which makes the whole
partnership thing all the more interesting.
If you' ve never ridden
a horse, you probably assume it's a simple thing you can learn in a weekend. You
can, in fact,
learn the basics on a Sunday, but to truly ride well takes a
lifetime. Working with a
living being is far
more complex than turning a key in the ignition and putting
the car or tractor in
"drive."
In addition to listening to your instructor, your horse will
have a few things to say to you as well. On a good day, he'll be
happy to go
along with the program and tolerate your mistakes; on a bad
day, you'll swear
he's trying to kill you. Perhaps he's naughty or
perhaps he' fed up
with how slowly you're learning his language. Regardless,
the
horse will have an
opinion. He may choose to challenge you (which can ultimately make you a better
rider) or he may carefully carry you over fences - if it
suits
him. It all depends
on the partnership - and partnership is what it's all
about.
If you
face your fears, swallow your pride, and are
willing to work at
it, you'll learn lessons in courage, commitment,
and compassion in addition
to basic survival skills. You'll discover just
how hard you're
willing to work toward a goal, how little you know, and how
much you have to
learn.
And, while some people think the horse "does all the work",
you'll be challenged physically as well as mentally. Your
horse may humble
you completely. Or, you may find that sitting on his back is the closest you'll
get to heaven.
You can choose to intimidate your horse, but do you
really want to? The results may come more quickly, but will your work ever be as
graceful as that gained through trust? The best partners choose to listen, as well as to tell. When it
works, we experience a sweet sense of accomplishment brought about by smarts,
hard work, and mutual under-
standing between
horse and rider. These are the days when you know with absolute
certainty
that your horse is
enjoying his work.
If we make it to adulthood with horses still in our
lives, most of us have to squeeze riding into our oversaturated
schedules; balancing our need for things equine with those of our households
and
employers.
There
is never enough time to ride, or to ride as well as we'd like. Hours in the barn
are stolen pleasures.
If it is in your blood to love horses, you share
your life with them. Our horses know our secrets; we braid our tears into
their manes and whisper our hopes into their ears. A barn is a sanctuary
in an unsettled world, a sheltered place where life's true priorities are clear:
a warm place to sleep, someone who loves us, and the luxury of regular
meals.
Some of us need these reminders.
When you step back, it's not
just about horses - it's about love, life, and learning. On any given day, a
friend is
celebrating the birth
of a foal, a blue ribbon, or recovery from an illness. That
same
day, there is also
loss: a broken limb, a case of colic, a decision to sustain a
life or end it
gently. As horse people, we share the accelerated life cycle of
horses: the
hurried rush of life, love, loss, and death that caring for
these animals brings
us. When our partners pass, it is more than a moment of sorrow.
We mark
our loss with words of gratitude for the ways our lives have been blessed.. Our
memories are of joy, awe, and wonder Absolute union. We honor our horses for
their brave hearts, courage, and willingness to give.
To those outside
our circle, it must seem
strange. To see us in our muddy boots, who would guess such poetry lives in
our hearts?
We celebrate our
companions with praise worthy of heroes. Indeed, horses have the hearts of
warriors
and often carry us into and out of fields of battle.
Listen
to stories of that once-in-a-lifetime horse; of journeys made and challenges
met. The best of horses rise to the
challenges we set before them, asking
little in return.
Those who know them understand how fully a horse can
hold a human heart. Together, we share the pain of sudden loss and the lingering
taste of long-term illness. We shoulder the burden of
deciding
when or whether to
end the life of a true companion.
In the end, we're
not certain if God entrusts us to our horses--or our horses to us. Does it
matter? We're grateful God
loaned us the horse in the first
place.
Author Unknown